10 ways to have a better conversation | Celeste Headlee

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When your job hinges on how well you talk to people, you learn a lot about how to have conversations - and that most of us don't converse very well. Celeste Headlee has worked as a radio host for decades, and she knows the ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity and a healthy amount of listening. In this insightful talk, she shares 10 useful rules for having better conversations. "Go out, talk to people, listen to people," she says. "And, most importantly, be prepared to be amazed."
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Kevin Fernandes
Kevin Fernandes Hace 16 horas
Stop drinking alcohol!! Alcohol can give you AIDS known as pancreatitis, liver disease or cancer! You will lose all your muscles and become skeletal! Alcohol damages your muscles and all your training from 15 years old will be lost by late 20s early 30s!!! Alcohol is not your friend and very dangerous if you have more than 2 drinks. Look it up! Friends who drink are alcoholics, and will not be your friend if you don't drink! Doctors will never warn you to stop, they need you to be sick to provide jobs and pharma commissions! Sports stars and athletes never or barely drink (1-2 drinks twice a year), so how can your body cope with all the alcoholic internal damage long term? Truth is it can't!!!
Mansi Tomar
Mansi Tomar Hace 22 horas
haa bhyiiii mehfil valo aagae
Nitin Jangid
Nitin Jangid Hace 22 horas
Haaaaaaa tatti
Nitin Jangid
Nitin Jangid Hace 22 horas
Or UPES walo...
Nitin Jangid
Nitin Jangid Hace 22 horas
@Prateeksha Mishra hahaha don't multitask
Prateeksha Mishra
Prateeksha Mishra Hace 22 horas
or mehfil walo
Angel pableo
Angel pableo Hace 23 horas
The way the speaker delivered her messages was effective. She uses her *hand gestures* that are so linked with her speeches, it also increases the impact when she say something important. The *tone of her voice* is friendly yet informative. Her style is she *gaves uncomplicated examples* so that its easily understand. #Principlesofcommunication
Laura Gusoiu
Laura Gusoiu Hace un día
Perfect speech, long enough to retain interest and short enough to cover the subject. Congratulations!
RR.STUDIOS ツ Hace un día
Yes, hi fellow humans...
Deepak Thapa
Deepak Thapa Hace un día
the main key is to observe what you don't like in a conversation and don't do the same things with other
C J Hace 3 días
It is best to say to people 'No Comment'!. How can anyone get offended by such neutral talk...😆? Count how many times you can say 'No Comment' in one day. If someone asks you how you are doing, at a family get together or party, say 'no comment'. Can I get a 'No Comment' to this?
the goyard godson
the goyard godson Hace 2 días
No Comment
Yehovah Is Salvation
NPR (National People's Republic of China Radio) careful about the facts? Really??? AnswersFromGod.com/?youtube=R1vskiVDwl4
Astro Zainab
Astro Zainab Hace 3 días
I have a very horrible problem with conversations is that I'm deeply shy girl ,especially in school I won't never ever have such an incredible conversation, because of my less_confidence ,I think this kinda issue is very common ,I always stumble and stutter ,and people chuckle at me ,that's way too hard to tackle , hopefully I could find a lesson about that. Incidentally this lecture was very amazing and the speaker was very lovely
Lalla Mariam Habibi
Lalla Mariam Habibi Hace 4 días
Dammy Cox
Dammy Cox Hace 4 días
I see we all got the 10/10 points but let me add these: - Enter every conversation assuming you have something to learn - True listening requires setting aside of oneself - Everyone you’ll ever meet knows something that you don’t - Everyone is an expert in something - If your mouth is opened, you’re not learning - Be interested in other people - A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject - The ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity, and a healthy amount of listening
Dammy Cox
Dammy Cox Hace 4 días
I see we all got the 10/10 points but let me add these: - Enter every conversation assuming you have something to learn - True listening requires setting aside of oneself - Everyone you’ll ever meet knows something that you don’t - Everyone is an expert in something - If your mouth is opened, you’re not learning - Be interested in other people - A good conversation is like a miniskirt; short enough to retain interest, but long enough to cover the subject - The ingredients of a great conversation: Honesty, brevity, clarity, and a healthy amount of listening
Nursulu Nurgali
Nursulu Nurgali Hace 4 días
The best lesson I have learned today.
Mr. ZAPSTEE's YT Hace 4 días
Don't take BT, Watch the BT (Bright Thoughts) esvid.net/show-UCf7ulBnxmRsoUoJY4Yt977Afeatured
Godfather Hace 4 días
Most people don't really listen, they are waiting for the others to stop speaking so they can take over.
J.PRASHANTH Hace 5 días
iam a very good listener .....but in that process i think i lost my own voice.
Ben Harnden
Ben Harnden Hace 6 días
Half way through this it ironically dawned on me that I was only half paying attention and doing other things
Yan Chuangcai
Yan Chuangcai Hace 6 días
here it's a problem, the conversation it's about the dynamic interaction between 2 people, so even one of them have a super high-level communication skill, like humor, combat argument or even hypnosis techniques, if the other person is 'randomly' or 'occasionally' on the state that doesn't want hear anything or just don't know how to express their feelings, the conversation at the end with a bad close.
Julia C
Julia C Hace 4 días
I guess you are talking here about a wife and her "hubby"
Mel Mel
Mel Mel Hace 6 días
I am amazed
Mel Mel
Mel Mel Hace 6 días
She is smart and beautiful, great talk!
Derek Diao
Derek Diao Hace 6 días
how true the dilemmas after fours years of Trump's administration... can't we just get along although i'm not a non Trump-supporter
Eren Fırat
Eren Fırat Hace 7 días
I couldnt watch it anymore every 10 seconds people are laughing loudly even if it is not funny thats annoying bruh
Judith Hace 7 días
I would have liked to hear what I should be telling as well
Waoh from 🇹🇿...! I loved this presentation and I keep repeating it often.. It's really nice.
Miss Sterling
Miss Sterling Hace 7 días
I do these things but I made these rules up in my own head. Really helped me smash my social anxiety years ago! :)
SlavicGirl Agency
SlavicGirl Agency Hace 7 días
It's a shame that a lot of people don't have their own opinion, because they don't think. They have someones - media, politics etc
john smith
john smith Hace 8 días
HOME SWEET Hace 8 días
oh my god is tired
Roy Herold
Roy Herold Hace 8 días
I no longer need my job with the help of, *e z g o o d p a y .c o m*
Phenomenal love
Phenomenal love Hace 9 días
Wow,she nailed it.The quote from the sister is quite amazing though.
AlednA Hace 9 días
her: *talks basically about talking less and listening more * me: *me, having trouble socializing bc i dont say barely anything but listen to anything others have to say * i think im already doing this...
Nursulu Nurgali
Nursulu Nurgali Hace 4 días
I am so related😂😂😂
Judith Hace 7 días
Yes, indeed. I would have liked to hear what I should be telling as well
Sara A
Sara A Hace 9 días
Im a good listener but also a horrible horrible chatter. Once i open my mouth, cant shut it 😂 so i keep quiet most of the time and try to listen.
Curleen Trotter
Curleen Trotter Hace 9 días
Wow! Wonderfully spoken . This was great
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Lightsoutlightson1 Hace 9 días
This is good & I will likely watch this & other videos like it more to improve my conversation skills. I am writing a story called "The Conversation" about a conversation to prevent doomsday so I should try to know something about how to do it the right way. Sadly, it is difficult to have meaningful conversations on line as social media seems to aid "one way" expression of opinion without a back and forth exchange of ideas. I like the speaker's point that everyone is an expert in something and has something important to say. That is an good perspective. It is also interesting that people who are different from myself can be the most interesting people as they have different skill sets and perspectives. The "conversation" I am interested in having is just how to solve problems since so many problems are not getting solved. I am interested in all options for problem solving including combining different disciplines / skill sets toward that goal. Unfortunately, I have not figured out how to engage in a meaningful exchange of ideas on or off social media as most people have an opinion but few want to combine opinions even in a brief, no obligation, format like social media.
Dummerbrella987 Hace 9 días
lol can you imagine if two awkward people studied this video as a guide to have a conversation and then tried to use the techniques on each other at the same time? It just wouldn't work. Two people barely talking because they want the other person to talk, and being as brief as possible with their answers while attempting to be open ended.
Fire eater 9107
Fire eater 9107 Hace 10 días
Of course, the best way to have the best conversation is to talk to yourself.
1 Sub?
1 Sub? Hace 10 días
*ESvid just recommended me this, I feel attacked.*
ozok17 Hace 3 días
youtube thought you might be interested in learning. are you not?
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Sojourner Sunrise Hace 10 días
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Sojourner Sunrise
Sojourner Sunrise Hace 10 días
5:56 a murder knows what its like to take someone's life.....i dont need that knowledge. Thank you.
Burner Account
Burner Account Hace 9 días
@Sojourner Sunrise well, if you watch his tv show he proves his beliefs through experimentation ;)
Sojourner Sunrise
Sojourner Sunrise Hace 10 días
Bill 'Lie' Nye, the .. just dont question answers guy. Don't question facts. Don't have your own belief in the unknown
Haya syrian
Haya syrian Hace 10 días
If you're a person who listens very well, but find it difficult to talk and that's why you clicked on that video don't press any button 😂😂😂
03 erika saskia
03 erika saskia Hace 10 días
I am an introvert person, actually i got a little bit of scared to building a conversation to other people. But, i start developing my self with writing blog and tell much in there. But from this video, i realize if u want they know about you, you have to listen and talks with others. So you can beyond your limit
Marsco Hace 10 días
Do the 100 strangers challenge find an excuse to approach 100 people in a month and you lose the fear very quickly!
BonappetitXCP Hace 10 días
Seriously? You're not going to tell us who your Grandfather was? That was just wrong.
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Twixi Films Ltd. Hace 11 días
Thank you so much! Now I realize I've been doing many things wrong and this helps so much!
Petr Pinkas
Petr Pinkas Hace 11 días
This is gold, please teach this at schools.
Basil Hace 11 días
I like her she’s real, we need teachers like her - real people , not phonies
íLen Køu
íLen Køu Hace 12 días
Bruh, even youtube algorithm is attacking me...
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Mendy Josh Hace 12 días
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firefly33 Hace 12 días
This lady needs to work on her presentation. She looks like a mess
Samarpita Sengupta
Samarpita Sengupta Hace 12 días
And what do you look like? Like the royalty? Why are you even judging ppl on their looks?
MA NA Hace 12 días
Wooa! It's amaaaazing!
Ultra Light Cam
Ultra Light Cam Hace 12 días
Oh mann this so good ima watch it AGAIN
Tomáš Hluska
Tomáš Hluska Hace 12 días
Re everybody's expert - yeah, unfortunately everybody's expert in one field but often feels entitled to speak about unrelated things as expert.
Bob and Barb Pavlik
Bob and Barb Pavlik Hace 12 días
Great stuff, Celeste. I have some work to do.
Juicy Jam
Juicy Jam Hace 12 días
*I was lucky to get steady_cracks on Instagram who got me access to my girlfriend chart* 💯
Juicy Jam
Juicy Jam Hace 12 días
*I was lucky to get steady_cracks on Instagram who got me access to my girlfriend chart* 💯
Ritik Prajapat
Ritik Prajapat Hace 12 días
👍👍👍👍👍 I like to improve myself in conversation
emiero Hace 12 días
It’s wrong to make decisions about where to live, who to marry, based on what we already believe?
Victoria O'Shea
Victoria O'Shea Hace 13 días
I don't believe in Vaccines or changes in the weather being an excuse for a communist world
Niamh Lord
Niamh Lord Hace 13 días
Kane O'Connor
Kane O'Connor Hace 13 días
Still relevant today
Khushi Master
Khushi Master Hace 13 días
Great points but my biggest problem in making a good conversation is 'how to start it?'😬😤
Boris Oostr
Boris Oostr Hace 13 días
You never knew this in a *1 M* years: esvid.net/video/v%C3%ADdeo-xnxqzaqWP1M.html
Azaliyasan Hace 13 días
Be prepared to be amazed ❤🔥
Jacob Pagliaro Golf
Jacob Pagliaro Golf Hace 14 días
*me casually having a conversation with Celeste* Her: “NO NO NO NO NO STOP STOP STOP HOLD UP, YOU’RE DOING IT WRONG”
Slow Neutron
Slow Neutron Hace 14 días
Here's a few rules I follow in my daily discourse with the denizens of my city : 1. Always talk down to the person. 2. Use racial epithets whenever possible. 3. Never be receptive to ideas that are different than yours. 4. Always insist you are correct, even when you're not. 5. Invoke Jesus's name at least 30 times in a 3 minute conversation. 5. Deride those who acknowledge climate change as well as those who get vaccinations. 6. Toss red herrings out in arguments whenever possible. 7. Use circular reasoning, straw-man arguments, and other logical blunders ad nauseum. 8. Always make sure to interrupt. 9. Be as mean as possible. 10. Lie. . . . Hey, I'm just getting adjusted to Trump's America. Does that make me a bad person?
Julia C
Julia C Hace 4 días
Wow !....I am speechless !...all 10 rules are awesome ! ..Impressive !
SquatsnDeads812 Hace 14 días
Depends who the conversation is with
Luciano Galvão Filho
Luciano Galvão Filho Hace 14 días
Being present is the key to have a better conversation (and also staying healthy and happy)
Simply Helen
Simply Helen Hace 14 días
Ha! This was filmed in 2016! Could you ever have imagined it all would have gotten so much worse??
Jessalyn Wakefield
Jessalyn Wakefield Hace 14 días
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iron sword Hace 14 días
sUcC VEVO Hace 14 días
Mr fenstermacher really be showing us the weirdest stuff
ibrahim Ali
ibrahim Ali Hace 14 días
Last time TED teaches me to Talk. Today I had learned to Listen...
Am Wili
Am Wili Hace 15 días
10 ways to have a better conversation"
ĐᄐጨσИأᄋ ᄂסᄃ0 әpᴉsuᴉ
Easy to say all that crap when you don't work, besides, when you are a man, you never be listened.
Berigó Hace 15 días
Uau!! One of the most interesting speach ever! What a memory and fluence this woman has! Amazing! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻😱🥰🥰
I am you, but you are not me
Handy skills for me! Listening requires energy, something I listen or pretend to be listening just waiting for the moment the opponent stops so I can ask a question which has been lingering in my mind for like hours. In that instance, we are not having an effective conversation, instead, an "extensive exchange" of ideas?
Che dilusione,vuoi che moro? 02
My problem is that I never know what to talk about.
Sujata Acharya
Sujata Acharya Hace 15 días
All are simple rules we are ignoring everyday.
Diago Dsouza
Diago Dsouza Hace 15 días
Wonderful. I'm impressed by her mastery on the subject. Very practical and easy to remember.
baljeet sohi
baljeet sohi Hace 15 días
I didn't listen, cause of 10. Why not 9 or 13 ?
Sergio Mcfly
Sergio Mcfly Hace 15 días
( . )( . ) Shes amazing
Ekansh Maithil
Ekansh Maithil Hace 16 días
Oh, How Amazing! Thank you :)
007nadineL Hace 16 días
What a fat blow hard Uggggh
007nadineL Hace 16 días
Paris R
Paris R Hace 16 días
I played the video at 1.5 speed so I wouldn’t get bored or distracted 👌
Walter VT
Walter VT Hace 16 días
Her first point is so wrong. There are people who do need to learn the communications that show their paying attention. Without having consciously learn those people thought I wasn’t paying attention. I was happy attention to everything all the time. But I had to learn how to communicate that I was paying attention. My mother who is a doctor specifically taught me those skills as a child. The speaker in this talk perhaps learn those skills easily he doesn’t even remember it.
Hamza Neri
Hamza Neri Hace 16 días
This thought me a lot.
Roger Williams
Roger Williams Hace 16 días
As a person who gives advice for a living, I appreciated this.
Yeremia Womsiwor
Yeremia Womsiwor Hace 16 días
Thank you for this.
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Gary Williamson
Gary Williamson Hace 16 días
Thank you, will give it a go 👍
Sunil Sharma
Sunil Sharma Hace 16 días
Amazed... Not to say an extra word
Sarah Thomas
Sarah Thomas Hace 16 días
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John White
John White Hace 17 días
I always give the police a damn good listening to but listened my way out of many relationships...
LamixFace Hace 17 días
Very practical advice. Loved it :)
BM Hace 17 días
At minute 7:00 that reminds me of Ellen. I watched her show so often without realizing that she does not listen and just asks questions she prepared, often disconnected to the answer. Was a real disappointment when I figured that out.
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