I like how literally the first shot is just everyone sitting very politely and considerately, and then Mr. Bang is just seated in the middle of the couch, legs spread wide enough to bridge the strait of Gibraltar, and a look of pure hatred in his eyes.
Maybe he’s got grapefruit nuts, you don’t know. Where do you think all that sweet sweet Bang energy comes from? Where do you think that name came from?
clearly abusive relationship. Maybe in a few years we will be seeing this woman getting a lot of money for their divorce settlement. I HOPE SO for her...
I’m sure he does not treat her the way she deserves at all but say yes to the dress is notorious for being overdramatized because if it’s not it’s literally just women trying on dresses 😅 which is fine for a few seasons but they have to add some drama to keep people watching, but again I totally agree that they most likely don’t have the best relationship there’s manyyyy red flags especially the age gap and his personality in general
@white.rabb!t 🩵 a script doesn't just magically make the creepy age gap disappear. A man that's almost 60 going after a young adult is a red flag in of itself
Dude, she keeps saying, “I don’t know what I want,” but she *does.* She was clearly into a mermaid style dress with a cute, but sexy style. She doesn’t like lace and said so straightforwardly. Still, Mr. Bang made her try a lace dress and vetoed any requests she made. It’s not that she doesn’t know what she’s looking for, it’s that he refuses to let her get what she wants and she has to pretend she’ll be happy with whatever he chooses. He’s actively making jokes at her expense, belittling her, and making her doubt herself. **Note** I’m glad she ended up with the dress she wanted in the end, good for her ♡
Are we not gonna talk about how Jack brought his “friend” who’s also a 20 something woman? Like he is definitely not the type of guy who sees woman as more than objects and combined with his abusive behavior towards his fiancé makes me concerned for that relationship too. He just gives me sketch vibes.
@Wynn definitely not most, obviously just the type you were 'attracted' to and didn't like you back. Doesn't mean they're all bad lol. And Most women aren't like you, so don't try switch us
@Wynn Many do, but many could still be 1 billion men and still not be "most" since there is definitely more than 2 billion straight men. I've known a lot of great men, I've known a lot of sleazy men, but those blanket statements do more harm than good. You can't complain about misogynistic men and then be misandristic. There's shitty men, there's shitty women, there's great men, there's great women. Grouping up anyone isn't good
As someone who loves Say Yes to the Dress, it always makes me so happy when they put their foot down and prioritize the wants of the bride. I really hope she gets out of this relationship though, because she definitely deserves someone better. Their dynamic is very odd to say the least
@Gianna That moral thought process is too simplistic and unstable. There‘s a difference between marrying a kind upstanding gentleman who sees you as his world for money and marrying a misogynistic douchebag who sees you as his property for money. One‘s clearly more justifiable. I wouldn‘t hold out any hope for him. I‘ve seen his personality type before.
@Gianna oh i feel you! i added the ‘good for her’ thing as basically a point of ‘you guys think she’s a gold digger but she’s married to mr bang energy so fuck it’ but she truly seems genuine in that relationship which makes me feel horrible because..he treats her horribly
@Mimi I wouldn't say good for her if she married someone and claimed she loved him if it was solely for money. I understand being hesitant about marrying someone broke, and wanting someone with a good career, but marrying for money is disgusting to me personally. But I really doubt she did, as bang wasn't launched when they were married. I feel terrible because he seems super controlling. I'm sure the show exaggerated it a bit, but I can't imagine ALL of it was fake and staged. I hope she's doing better now, and maybe he's changed for the better.
When he called that beautiful dress "tacky and unacceptable" I lost my shit, this man is in NO POSITION to call ANYONE else's fashion choices "tacky and unacceptable." Like, do you own a mirror dude? Do you see what you post? I'd ask if he was blind but I feel like blind people have better taste.
@Miracle Lynnette couldn't you ask the OC that? If the point of this video is simply to make fun of the guy, why is he getting so mad? It's just for fun, right? Why is your comment only pointed at me?
@Janus Greenway you know this entire video was just to make fun of this creepy old man right..? like that's the point. are you in the right place, janus?
This is hilarious how people feel such a strong second-hand anger. You think the dress is beautiful, he doesn't but because he doesn't now you have to get mad as hell defending her honor or whatever this is supposed to be and insult the guy in the process. You good, bro? Like, this isn't some criminal offence of something, lol, chill out would ya?
@Samantha Stephenson Yeah, it's an old episode, but even at the moment of filming it, I thought she was 36? Like nearing her 40's. On the same note, I thought Danny was 23 at most. XD
@Amy Aberrant I think it's just the makeup and clothing style making her look a bit older. Plus, doesn't help that Danny looks like a high-schooler lol
I'm happy to see someone mention this, that what I kept thinking about, but I forgor that it's fruit and not vegetable because in Russian it means vegetable lol
Wardrobe control was one of the most stifling abuse tactics my ex used against me. It completely tore me down and took away my sense of self and autonomy- I hurt for this woman.
@Yh it might be very loosely related but was still interesting. i love dressing really girly, it makes me feel confident. Nor am i asking for attention and to be harassed, so them saying that (hopefully) next time when i dress ill put more thought into it. EVEN THOUGH it shouldn't be me making the changes.
It makes me feel better knowing she'll outlive him. It's still gross that he controls every little decision she makes, but she's decided she's okay with that so...Also, 20yrs from now he'll be 79 and she'll be 46 so who knows maybe only she'll be looking at the photos 😂
Yes, but the reason most older guys use younger girls is because as their health fails they can manipulate her into being dependent, which is what Jack is doing, so once they become dependent on full-time care, the lady will be “obliged” to nurse him for another 5-10 years because “he treated her well” until he finally kicks the bucket. It’s quite disgusting.
I really feel like someone needs to mention that yes, Jack is wearing a suit that is both way too big for him and completely untailored, as well as wearing a style of shirt that isn't meant to be worn with a tie (I'm pretty sure you're supposed to be wearing a bowtie with that type of shirt collar). His vest is also insanely long (it should fall at around belt-buckle length) and the colour's not one I would've done- it almost looks like his shirt is untucked at the bottom. Not to mention that he just seems generally confused about what occasion he's dressed for-- it looks like he just picked out whatever was on sale and went from there. If anything, he's the least classy person at his own wedding (although I have no doubt that anyone could surmise that from his Instagram).
“I didn’t know what I liked, what I didn’t like-“ She wanted a sexy mermaid dress with no lace… She knew what she wanted and liked. Maybe she just didn’t know it because she wasn’t being given the chance to even explore her options because of the douche in the room.
7:30 Just so everyone in this community is aware, as someone who’s been in a controlling relationship and who studies domestic violence, she very likely says she doesn’t know what she wants because her autonomy has been taken away from her. When someone controls everything you do/wear, you lose your sense of self and your confidence, and making decisions can become very difficult. Especially because in these controlling relationships, any decision you do make is often criticized. It sounded like she did have an idea of what she wanted (a mermaid style dress; not lace; etc), but she kept getting shut down/invalidated
@_Marina_ 'I know it sounds stupid and ungrateful' does it or has she gaslit and guilt tripped you into thinking anything negative you say about her is stupid and ungrateful?
Please cover more episodes of Say Yes to the Dress, the amount of drama they manage to cram into a show about dress shopping is absolutely gobsmackingly ridiculously amazing. I live to watch Lori roast unsupportive family members!
If someone is doing this at your fitting, don't buy a dress. Postpone the wedding and go to couples counseling. This level of control is bordering on abuse and no one with this issue in their relationship should be going straight to marriage. If your fiance is telling you what you can and cannot wear, the relationship is not ready for marriage.
@Abbi Normi Uh- just in case anyone gets misinformed, following and believing in a religion's teachings is what makes you a part of it. Claiming to be a religion doesn't mean that you are a real part of it. That's like saying 9/11 was actually caused by Muslims instead of psychos claiming to be Muslim
As soon as she said she didn't know what she liked or didn't like and had to refer to him for all her opinions, my grooming/abuse alarms were ringing so loud. Can we make sure this woman is okay currently and not just being pressured into staying with him?
I had a friend who thought that ‘he loved her’ and was 30 years older. She had help and also read up on things and thank god because he was not for her. He groomed her even though she was a ‘consenting adult.’ I love her and am glad she is doing great. Be careful, women and remember that you are loved and don’t have to lower your standards.
She knows exactly what she wants, she said it right up top that she wants a mermaid style dress with no lace, shes literally too *AFRAID OF HIM* to assert herself
@Karen Amyx I'm not saying she's a prisoner or being abused, I'm just saying you can't ignore red flags when you see them. This literally has nothing to do with feminism. You believe being a victim of abuse makes a woman inherently incapable and weak? If this is happening to her it wouldn't be her fault; it has nothing to do with her character, it only speaks volumes about the abuser. Once again, I don't know what's going on in her life but you can see if something looks suspicious. You can also acknowledge that if this was really happening it could indicate a pretty unhealthy, imbalanced dynamic.
@Karen Amyx most people in controlling and abusive relationships seem fine with it. also, what the hell is your problem dude? what does abortion even have to do with this subject? no one said she cant date this dude, its just obvious that hes a controlling person. like, get over yourself bro. you seem to be awfully defensive over this, and for what? is your hubby controlling too dear? blink twice if you need help
never fails to shock me when I see someone literally being abused and treated like an object by their significant other in real time, like shit like "he convinced me that I didn't know what I wanted" is the kind of stuff people tell you about AFTER the relationship has ended horribly, ya know😅
I assume they were raised in an abusive household, so abuse is their normal. That was the case for my mom, and she got me a few steps away from that abuse. She completely cut off contact with her family, went through years of counseling, and married a husband who was not physically abusive like her parents. But her husband / my father was psychologically abusive. And most of her "friends" were manipulative and verbally bullied her. It took us both until my adulthood to recognize the psychological abuse and try to get away from it, as much as we can given our limited financial resources (e.g., not being able to move away from neighbors who harass us). If all you ever experience is abuse, it becomes impossible to recognize. And so a lot of people convince themselves that they are okay with it because that's psychologically easier than identifying as a victim.
I know :/ I kind of agreed with Danny until I read all the comments and realized that anyone can be oblivious to the signs of abuse unless you or a loved one has been in her shoes. I don’t think Danny meant anything bad and he definitely seems to think Jack is a bad guy. I just hope the girl is okay and that Jack is at least a little better.
When the one lady says "If she keeps letting her fiance change her mind, she'll be walking out of here with nothing but her fiance", I love the irony in that statement as he's the one thing she should be getting rid of here.
The Bang CEO chose his wife's makeup, clothes, and hair, which automatically made her look way older than she is. If the Bang CEO chose Danny's appearance, he'd probably look way older too lol
my heart breaks for this girl :( I've been in an abusive, controlling relationship with an older man who I didn't realize was manipulating me. After three years of being with him I had no sense of self, everything I did or said was based on whether or not he would approve. I hope she realizes how much she is worth & leaves his crusty ass.
It's not that she doesn't know what she 'wants', it's that she doesn't know what HE wants. He is clearly a misogynistic control freak. The desperation in her voice while trying to figure him out is a small cry for help. She knows what she wants. She doesn't know what she is *allowed* to want, per his standards. I hope she sees this episode, realizes her worth, and takes half his money for the obvious psychic damages he causes by having the worst vibes of any room he walks into.
I love that the CEO of Bang wore a bowtie collared shirt and wore a normal tie. When it just has those two little flaps, then you're supposed to wear a bowtie not a long tie
As someone who struggles with fashion, if my bf wanted to help out and I liked his choices then go for it, including with a wedding dress. But no one should feel like they can't decide for themselves, especially for this sorta thing
it's also crazy because none of these dresses are like particularly revealing. like even a "flirty" wedding dress is still a big ass gown that covers most of a woman's body. there really isn't all that much on display
Did anyone else think it was a red flag that the bride’s reaction to being criticized by her husband is to say that she ‘doesn’t know what she wants’. She knew exactly what she wanted, a flirty mermaid dress, in a normal healthy couple it would be like ‘we want different things’ not ‘I no longer know what _I_ want’. Especially combined with the fact that he apparently dresses her everyday, talk about controlling.
11:23 this part breaks my heart. You can see on her face that she doesn't know what to do, and the fact that he doesn't seem to pick up on that is frustrating. This is supposed to be her big day, yet her fiancee is trying to put the focus on what he wants rather than what she wants. I have seen quite a few comments mentioning how he seems more like an overprotective/controlling father, and I can't agree more.
Age differences aren’t the problem. The problem is the power dynamic. You can’t consent to someone who has this kind of power over you. I hope she’s doing okay.
It's so awful that she's trapped in that kinda relationship but I'm so so glad she ended up going with the style of dress she said she wanted in the beginning and that she ended up happy with her look at least, even if the rest of her relationship is undoubtedly a nightmare
I just realized that the famous TikTok sound "is this say yes to the dress or say yes to the sl*t??" is from Danny; and the fact that it has more videos than the song "circus" he made specifically to go viral is insanely funny
As someone who was controlled by men most of my life, her saying "I didn't really know what I liked" was her way of simultaneously glossing over what he was doing and at the same time losing any opinion of her own because he made it clear his opinion was the only one that mattered since he shoots her down every time she expresses herself.
I googled when BANG CEO got married because the video looked like it was filmed in 2011 or 2012, and I was right. They got married in Fed 2012. Didn't find any info about his wife's age tho, but she said she was 26 in the video, which will make her 36 or 37 now Do whatever u want with this info Also hello, I'm a new Greg :)
He's done a great job getting inside this woman's head. He's gotten her to a point where she values his opinion more than her own. What a toxic, manipulative relationship- I hope she finds a way out.
‘She doesn’t seem unhappy’ ‘she looks ok with it’ do the people saying this have any understanding of abusive relationships? Of course she ‘seems’ ok with it publicly, if she wasn’t there’d be consequences. It’s common for people being abused to act like they’re not, especially in public, because it would really set off the abuser who’d do something horrible to them and/or the social reaction could make things worse and less to a situation where the abuser gets the bystanders on their side and turns them against the victim, or it could also make the abuser hold on tighter and thus make it harder for the victim to escape
@saotastic I do have emotional intelligence, I wouldn’t assume what someone does/doesn’t have seemingly because you (and others) disagree. That seems toxic, and disrespectful. It would make more sense if you (or others) disagreed with something an individual said, to engage in a mature, civil conversation with someone; and not try to childishly talk about them.
@tiffany arnaud I’m not defending a toxic relationship, I’ll “keep up” whatever I choose. It is her choice to stay in the relationship. Attempted emotional manipulation will not work.
Reality tv shows are always scripted and the producer will feed you lines. When he said "Is this say yes to the dress or say yes to the breast?" that was 100% something the producer told him to say lmao really enjoyed this commentary!
@roachdogg jr. Who is to decide that its bad taste? I dated some eccentric women that sometimes would surprise me how they would dress. But I wouldnt tell them what to wear or not to wear. Later in life I got with a woman who wanted to do everything to dress like I liked. It was all from herself and I never demanded anything but it was her idea/feeling. So being on both sides, we cant judge. Its their thing and if they are good with it let them be.
@Mark that's bad and controlling too, unless your spouse has absolutely no sense of fashion whatsoever any time they dress and they ask you for help dressing up, you shouldn't do that
Honestly, the best part of this video was seeing how happy she got when she finally found that mermaid-style dress that she wanted. I’m so glad she at least got to choose the dress she wanted.
*Came for Say yes to the dress, stayed for Danny's humor LMAO* What is the CEO of Bang Energy? He doesn't even know the ages of the five kids this stunning woman gave him.
She said she didn't know what she wanted but literally in the clip before she wants mermaid style and she hates lace. It sounds very much like she knows what she wants but she's being manipulated
5:30 I swear I saw a wedding exactly like this, not with Bang energy drinks in it but just: bride, in a tank full of water, on the reception, waving to the guests in her wedding dress as if she was a mermaid. There was a tv show that planned weddings for people randomly in my country. In another episode, not a mermaid one, but the cake designer made - as requested - the biggest wedding cake she could... She broke a World Record.
this is honestly sad to be because I’ve personally been through toxic relationship(s) and they wouldn’t let me wear what i wanted to wear, like a croptop, i can tell that hes controlling and she seems to be brainwashed into thinking it is normal to be controlled & told whats okay to wear and what’s not okay to wear, i feel so bad for her
Could we get some more Say Yes to the Dress content from Danny tho? This was so much fun, he’s learning about dresses and styles while making it funny. I see some potential in him exploring different kinds of videos like this.
Danny this Knives Out sweater and orange pants combo is so 🔥 Literally two of your best ever outfits back to back in ur last couple videos…ur such a style icon
Just to let Danny or anyone else wondering to know, mermaid dress means the shape of the dress, where it goes down the legs narrowly and widens towards the bottom, like a mermaid tail with the end fin things xD
This video has me thinking about what a mess it must be to work for a wedding retailer and have clients who should clearly not be getting married. Do any of these places ever have domestic abuse hotline numbers posted anywhere?
A man who constantly surrounds himself with bikini-clad models is EXACTLY the man to forbid his own gf, fiancee or wife to wear anything too revealing. You see, he judges all other men by his own standards, and categorised women into those that can be freely objectified and HIS PROPERTY that other men can't get a chance to see too much of because it would harm HIM.
This is how I KNOW he sees women as objects. The fact that he can categorize and manipulate them however he likes without even considering their perspective? Strange.
@annotatedkate someone can have perfectly fine parents and be pushovers. For example, if they were bullied in school all the time and didn't ever tell the parents, the parents can think everything is okay when in reality it isn't. That happened to me in middle school. It's the difference between nature and nurture. Not everything is the parents, some people can be assholes or more submissive even without parent's involvement. Someone can be narcissistic by nature even though the parents are sweethearts and taught them well. This also happened with my brother and showed at a very early age.
Judging by their religiousness, I'm willing to bet her mom was actually involved in _setting her up_ with the dude herself and is "very proud" of this accomplishment. A lot of Americans criticize arranged marriages in Asia without realizing that loosely the same thing happens in the US in conservative church communities, they just don't call it an "arranged marriage" verbatim.
as someone who will always shit on tacky/overly revealing wedding dresses I gotta say, her choices weren't over the top (no pun intended). Just because there's cleavage doesn't mean it's trashy or gross, in fact, she looked very classy and pretty in the ones Mr. Bang kept shaming.
I'm so glad you're doing some casual stuff. It's like a lil extra casual Danny on the weekends that we can cheat on hard-working large amounts of effort Danny on the weekdays.
I think the reason she kicked him out was partially so he wouldn’t sway her opinion on it but also because if it was the dress she likely didn’t want him to see her in it before the wedding. A lot of people follow “the groom can’t see the bride in her wedding dress before the wedding” so it could’ve been very similar thinking
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